"Every artist dips his brush in his own soul, and paints his own nature into his pictures." - Henry Ward Beecher
...
I'm sorry for such a long break in my posts but I just got back from holidays with a memory card full of painting resources which will hopefully turn into future paintings :)
...
Why is it that things we notice most often in others are the things we dislike, or even hate, about ourselves?
The things we admire others the most for, are the things we wish we would be able to do... If a person is able to do something we can't or they are someone we want to be, we automatically idealise them which then leaves us with an unreal and exaggerated opinion...
We look for ourselves in others because that's what we know best. We know ourselves, or at least we think we do, so we're able to compare behavioural traits. We compare reactions in different situations to see whether they differ from our own or not and then we use it to predict how they'll react or act in a different situation. This can obviously be misleading as reaction is based on previous experience but that's the only way we can do it, so we try to get to know people in that way.
Where am I going with this?
It's easy to make ourselves seem like we're something we're not in order to impress others, in order to make them wish they were like we are. What's the point of doing that? To gain a temporary friend, who will stop liking us as soon as they found out that we were pretending? I'd rather have people who really love me for who I am, than those who like me for someone I'm not.
...
Painting published with this post was painted over another painting, over painting I did 2 years ago but wasn't satisfied with it...
The name of the old one fits with the new one so it will stay as ''up in smoke''.
The new painting (top) is painted using Artists' oil paint from Winsor and Newton.
It's painted on top of an acrylic painting :)
Lots of love,
Marlena
